It’s
almost time to celebrate the New Year: A time of renewal and, for many hope for
a better tomorrow. Yet, have you noticed how three weeks into January all those
good intentions go awry?
Why
is it so hard to change? Who wouldn’t love to lose those irritating 10 pounds,
get that new “perfect” job or meet your soul mate? What’s the hang up? Why is
it so hard to change?
Why
is changing so hard?
Our
brains are geared to resist change. It’s a survival thing – a chemical
reaction. When we want to make a change in our life, it’s fraught with the
unknown and all of this causes anxiety and fear. Our reptilian brain comes to
the rescue and tries to save the day. “CHANGE bad. Cookies GOOD” and there goes
our diet plans.
But
there’s hope
One
of the most effective means for circumventing our reptilian brain – so we can
be open to changing and tapping into what really lights us up – is the practice
of gratitude.
What
does gratitude have to do with change? It’s nearly impossible to feel anxious
and fearful when in a state of gratitude. The feelings of gratitude create a
very profound shift in our brains and create a sense of abundance,
expansiveness and possibility.
We
are able to make different decisions and move forward with more ease.
Possibility, curiosity and excitement abound in a grateful mindset. It truly is
the antidote for anxiety and fear. This opens the door to making lasting
changes in your life.
Let’s
use the example of looking for a new job. Practice being grateful for your
current job and you’ll be surprised at what pops up. You may end up loving the
job you have or, be much more receptive and curious when job applying.
Try
this experiment
Take
the time to write three SPECIFIC things you’re grateful for everyday. Go into
great detail about each person, place or thing. Identify the highlight of your
day. (A complimentary two-week gratitude
journal is available at www.whatisnextforyou.net). Try it for two weeks. Then
you can thank me!